Straight Talk TNT

This is my problem, too. You start texting or talking online and get to know at least the basics about each other, but then those first few times hanging out you don’t know what to talk about. But, really, you just have to push through it. Re-ask questions, expand on things you’ve talked about. If you’re meant to be it will just flow.

Nothing beats face-to-face, so start a conversation with her It takes a lot of guts and she knows that.

I had a relationship with this guy from my school where we’d text and sometimes talk on the phone, but never in person. We had two classes together, too, so it felt really ridiculous. We finally decided to meet outside of school and we hit it off But, still, no talking at school. Then, out of the blue, he comes up and kisses me We aren’t together now but we’re amazingly good friends and had a really good relationship while it lasted. So don’t be afraid Make a move, look how it worked for me

It sounds like you are the type that freezes up in person. I’m the same way and talking on MySpace or texting is much easier. If I were her, I would want you to just walk up to me and put your arm on my shoulder and be like, “What? Not talking to me anymore?” real playful-like. Then see where it goes.

Just because you’ve done the small talk doesn’t mean there isn’t more conversation to be had. Since it’s been awhile since you last “talked”, next time you see her, ask how she’s doing, and what’s new.

Talking only online to someone is like knowing them and not knowing them at the same time. This new communication is screwy that way. Someone will ask to be my friend on Facebook with nothing in real life to initiate the friendship other than knowing who I am. Then it’s awkward when I see them in person because I don’t really know them. I recommend inviting your girl to do something that will give you something to talk about beyond get-to-know-you questions.

I’ve gotten to know several people through MySpace and Facebook, and even though we all went to the same school, only one made it to the real world. It’s hard, especially if one or both of the people are shy. Make contact, either in person or online, and suggest a time to hang out. When you see her, bring up a topic you discussed online and follow it. If you don’t give it a shot, you’ll never know what could’ve happened.