Straight Talk TNT

You’re not exaggerating at all! I go to my large public school at 7AM, take four AP classes, get as much homework done as possible during class, go to cross-country practice, followed by meetings or appointments, then home to finish homework and work on other extracurriculars (running a nonprofit, coordinating elementary school programs, Science Olympiad, clubs, piano). I have friends who are chronically depressed, anxious, disillusioned, and extremely sleep-deprived. They blindly heed a voice in their head (or from parents) telling them they must do “more, more, more” for their “dream college” resume. The key to sanity is actually caring about your activities and having an enjoyable outlet for stress (mine is running). That is how I am able to remain healthy and happy.

Attending a private prep school, my dad expected A’s for the money he paid. On top of schoolwork, I did sports, drama, and other activities. Some days, the insane schedule and constant pressure of perfection made me almost lose it. College definitely seems easier. Have your son replace activities he doesn’t enjoy with those he does. They all look good on a resume. Make sure to stay in close communication.

I attend a private prep school. Yes, it is my choice, but the overwhelming pressure invades my thoughts every single day. Society has brainwashed me into thinking that where I go to college will decide whether or not I am successful, and, therefore, happy. My peers and I are in a frenzy to exceed a 4.0 and do as many extracurriculars as possible because this, we are told, is the road to happiness. We took a poll in Economics and over half the class does school-related work 40+ hours a week. One quarter works 60+ hours. Henry Ford discovered that humans are most productive in a 40-hour, five-day work week (as opposed to a 48-hour, six-day week). So why are high schoolers driven to work 60+ hours, seven days a week?! Subjects that should be fascinating become “more work.” Cheating and plagiarism are everyday coping mechanisms. This problem requires educational reform. But first, parents need to care less about college and more about their child’s mental wellbeing.

“Cheating is caring” is an underground motto at my pressure-cooker school. Many feel they can’t care for themselves AND the college app without it.

I am an honors student, athlete and student leader, juggling multiple extracurricular and community service activities. Fortunately my parents help me identify my passions and interests and steer me away from helter-skelter achievements. This provides sanity so I can also be a normal kid who hangs with friends and goes to the beach. Nothing can replace health and happiness.