Straight Talk For Teens By Teens

Hands off best-friend’s boyfriend

Dear Straight Talk: I’m 16 and I don’t know what to do. I’m in love with my best friend’s boyfriend and I think he’s in love with me. Last night we were at a party and he took me aside and kissed me. He’s already called me twice today talking about how he can’t stop thinking about me and how things aren’t so great with “Mary”. I’ve always liked him, but for the sake of my friendship with Mary I’ve never made any moves. Now I’m totally confused and don’t know how to handle this without losing a friend. What do people do in cases like this?—Help!

Dear Help: If you go forward, figure on losing your friend for sure. Maybe you gain the guy, maybe you don’t, that’s a roll of the dice—but if you do get him, figure on never being able to trust him.

Best friends are hard to come by. Guys you can’t trust are on every corner—or in this case, at every party. I recommend you shake off the fairy dust and tell Mary’s boyfriend you’re not interested in a relationship for obvious reasons.

Here’s more from the teen staff:

From Brittney, 18: I have seen this situation many times and have gone through something similar myself. To get right to the point, don’t pursue it. Your friend will be hurt, and I have never found a guy who is worth losing a friend over, especially a best friend.

From Farren, 18: Any guy who cheats on his girlfriend with her best friend honestly isn’t the type of guy someone should date. If it happened to Mary, it can happen to you. I think you should let your love interest go, let Mary know what happened, and try to redeem yourself to her any way you possibly can.