Who said she said daughter is smoking pot?
Aug 24Dear Straight Talk: A friend of my daughter’s told her mother about a certain group of kids who were smoking pot. This mother then told me. I happen to know one of the kids involved, “Brittney”, and as I know her mother quite well, I thought it made sense to tell her. Well, it went out of control and I’m feeling like I shouldn’t have gotten involved. This mother was only intent on figuring out who told in the first place, and as I wouldn’t tell her (not wanting to compromise the girl who told her mother in the first place), she put two and two together and figured it out and placed a bunch of calls in defense of her daughter.
I already know her daughter is a good kid and I only thought I should let her mom know that there was some experimenting going on. Did I do the wrong thing? Everybody seems to be mad at me: the mother I told is angry, the mother who told me is angry because now her daughter is known as a tattle-tale and she is worried that her daughter won’t share with her in the future. So, what in the heck is a person supposed to do with this kind of information?—El Dorado Hills
Dear El Dorado Hills: Read on for Farren’s response. It says it all.
From Farren, 17: As much as I’d like to say there was a better solution, I think what the mother did was exactly what she should have done. I think every parent should be aware of what their child is doing with their time, even if it’s just experimenting. What if something had gone wrong and there was an emergency? Without the parents knowing what was going on with their children, they would have no idea how to address the situation.
As for the huffy mother, that’s too bad, but there will always be parents out there that feel the need to be in defense of their beloved daughters. As for the daughter who did tell her mother about the group of kids smoking pot, she obviously cares for her friends’ well-being and I’m sure she will continue to care enough about them to speak up.
I can’t say that something like that wouldn’t happen again if this mother chooses to share things with parents again. It’s in parents’ nature to come to their kids’ defense, or to worry about them being called a tattle-tale. But that does seem like a small price to pay for their well-being and safety. For the mother who chose to speak up, well done. At least somebody is worried about their child’s safety, and not just their social status within a group of friends.
