Feeling the crunch of the crush
May 25Dear Straight Talk: What do you do with unending crushes? I’ve had an unreasonable crush on this girl for four years now. I’m 19 and I think about her on a daily basis but never do anything about it.—Anonymous
Dear Anonymous: Unending crushes…….ah, yes, there’s a reason we hold onto these. Artists and poets know about this—as do all young people who haven’t yet steeled themselves to life. Crushes are full of hope and possibility, tension and inspiration. Consider yourself lucky! Oh, you want practical advice? Okay, okay, they’re not called “crushes” for nothing, and it sounds like you’re feeling the squeeze.
You call it an “unreasonable” crush. Have you answered your own question and the reason you never take action is because there is something preventing this relationship from ever being successful? Take an honest look and see if this is true.
If it’s not true (or maybe it was true, but that limitation has grown up and moved on), and you’re looking for that nudge of courage to put your neck on the line (gulp), then all I can say is: nothing ventured, nothing gained. When a man offers his heart, honestly and respectfully, to the woman he loves, miracles can happen.
Trust your gut feeling on this one, it won’t steer you wrong.
